Celebrating the Tired, the Hopeful, and the Dedicated Midwives

Celebrating the Tired, the Hopeful, and the Dedicated Midwives

 "Midwives? What is this, the 1400s? Do I have a feudal master to whom I pay monthly tithes in grain?"To say the least, my husband was unenlightened when it came to childbirth practices. He has since come a long way in a short time, but we were young(er) and stupid(er) back then, and he had never heard of a midwife delivering babies—doctors did that, duh.Optimistically pregnant for the first time, I chose my midwifery practice based on the advice of my friend who was also a midwife. We met in grad school and bonded over cheap beer and stupid men (those bonds last a lifetime, really)."This midwifery practice delivers at Northside. You'll be in good hands there," she reassured me. I knew she wouldn't lead me astray. She had my best interests at heart and knew these women personally.And so, I registered with Atlanta, Georgia's Northside Hospital—or Atlanta's well-known "Baby Factory" that delivers over 18,000 babies each year. If anything...
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You might be a mom if…

You might be a mom if…

Leave a comment on Facebook with the crazy things you've started doing now that you're definitely a mom. Transcript of the video You might be a mom if you've redefined what crazy means after you've since checked off all of the boxes from the list you created before you had kids. You might be a mom if you instantly become suspicious that your children are secretly strangling each other in their room because it is too quiet in your house and there's no such thing as a quiet house anymore. You might be a mom if you've ever used baby wipes instead of makeup removing wipes because hello! They do the same thing, and one is way cheaper than the other. You might be a mom if you haven't thought twice about sticking your hand into a clogged sink to pull out random bits of food because your hands have already seen way worse than anything in a kitchen sink. You might be a mom if...
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Unmedicated and Unplanned Birth Story on Motherbirth’s Podcast

Unmedicated and Unplanned Birth Story on Motherbirth’s Podcast

I had the pleasure of speaking at length with Mellisa and Laura on Motherbirth's podcast and describing my somewhat unusual birth story that other women have also experienced with Hypnobabies (aff). It is incredible to think that more and more mothers will experience pain-free/comfortable births and it would be wonderful if that could become every woman's reality. Motherbirth is a great podcast series focusing on the remarkable birth stories of women around the world so be sure to check it out. Click here to listen to the story on Motherbirth (they did a great job editing it down!) http://www.motherbirth.co/podcast/2017/6/1/episode-025-pain-free-birth And if you're interested in buying the Hypnobabies program, click below at no extra cost to you and a small percentage to me because I'm essentially a living and breathing advertisement for these folks. If I can do it, I know that you can!   Virtual Midwifery One woman who is helping expat women around the world is Karen Wilmot, The Virtual Midwife. She is offering a course that is available here:     Read...
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Growing Up the Saban Way

Growing Up the Saban Way

By Kelsi Folsom "The practice of gratitude and fortitude will never be an unfruitful one, and is, I think, one of the greatest gifts of living abroad."         Ask anyone if they have ever heard of Saba, and most likely you will hear, “No, where is that?” To which I reply, “Well, it’s a five-square mile volcanic island of fewer than 1,800 people located in the Dutch Caribbean. It's home to the shortest commercial runway in the world, one of the most difficult medical schools, and the highest geographical point in the Netherlands. Want to grab lunch?” Saba is a charming mix of cultures. Although currently a Dutch protectorate, the language spoken is primarily English (with Dutch, Saba English, and a sprinkling of Spanish). There are the “expat locals” (American, Canadian, Scandinavian, European, Filipino, and others I have yet to interact with) and the “born and raised locals” (descendants of great sea-captains, pirates, shipbuilders, fishermen, and slaves) in addition to the 500 or so...
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Taking Route: Finding Your Parenting Style In Between Cultures

Taking Route: Finding Your Parenting Style In Between Cultures

  The ladies (Denise and Alicia) at Taking Route have a great podcast up and running if you are looking for a new podcast to listen to about life abroad. When they approached me to chat about the Knocked Up Abroad series, I was super excited to share my story about how living in Sweden has had a profound influence on my approach to parenting. Denise has six (6!) children abroad (I don't know how she finds time to put together a podcast) and we connected right away. We both love allowing our kids to play unattended and our lives abroad have reduced our "nervousness" in our approaches to parenting. (We also both harbor an unnatural hatred for Pinterest, but that's another story.) Be sure to follow Taking Route on Instagram for more of their great content including Denise's awesome passport hack. Also, Alicia from Taking Route is knocked up abroad again herself—and she uses that term!—and I love it when women refer to themselves...
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Can it ever be enough?

Can it ever be enough?

  I've been there for every moment. Every smile, every laugh, every wobbly step—every everything—and yet it feels like I am still missing out on so much. How is it not enough? I look back at baby pictures taken years ago, and I see that squishy face. I can see hints of who you will become hidden around your smile wrinkles, arm folds, and fuzzy hair.     You and I were different back then. Through the long nights with multiple wake ups, the constant changing of sheets, and endless laundry, I was too mired in the hour-to-hour chaos to reflect on anything meaningful. Back then I couldn't see the sweet, crazy kid you would become. Back then your happy moments were constantly interrupted with fussy ones. Your smiles turned into cries, and I'd quickly have to intervene. It felt like we were on this emotional roller coaster together, but the ride was taking too long. I was tired, and the ride kept on going and...
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Is It Time For This Mother In France To Rentrer?

Is It Time For This Mother In France To Rentrer?

Five years ago, my husband and I packed up our Manhattan apartment and moved across the ocean to France. Our plan was to stay for two to three years and then hightail it back to the U.S. to start a family. There was no way I was going to have a baby in a foreign country! Except that I did. And we stayed. Despite my initial reticence—and bolstered by the experiences described in Bringing Up Bébé—I loved being pregnant in France. I have zero regrets, even though I only understood 60% of any doctor’s appointment throughout my pregnancy. During delivery, my husband stood by my shoulder translating, “Breathe…push…push again…okay, I’m not sure what the OB is saying but maybe push again?...Oh wait, no, don’t push! DON’T PUSH!!” Even though we had lived in France for a few years, we had difficulty making close friends. When my son was born, I realized that we couldn’t continue to operate in isolation. I needed a village....
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The Bag That Will Revolutionize Parenting

The Bag That Will Revolutionize Parenting

One of the best parts of entering into the crowdfunding community is that other creatives and inventors discover and connect with one another. I had the pleasure of running across Pricilla's amazing invention that is perfect for parents who are looking for a diaper bag that can do it all—The Division of Labor Dual Tote.     Designed by a busy mom who was tired of the mess that became her diaper bag, this bag is durable and stylish enough to last long after your baby is out of diapers. When I was pregnant, we purchased a black diaper bag that my husband wouldn't mind carrying. I was continually digging through it to try to find wipes and an extra clean onesie when diaper physics failed me yet again. I can't tell you how many times I would discover a lost pair of socks at the bottom of the bag. I would've given my right arm (the one that I use for world-domination) for a...
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To The Mom With The Bad Birth Experience

To The Mom With The Bad Birth Experience

BY THE KNOCKED UP ABROAD AGAIN CONTRIBUTORSTo the mom with the bad birth experience,It doesn’t matter what happened. Whether you had an underlying condition or were treated badly by your doctor or midwife. Whether the baby wasn’t doing well or whether your providers caused you considerable unnecessary stress. Whether in other words it was caused by an inherent problem with your pregnancy or something external that was out of your control. Maybe, like us, you gave birth in a foreign country, not speaking the language and not familiar with the maternity system.Maybe giving birth traumatized you. Maybe the people you trusted most let you down.It doesn’t matter because all that matters is that you’re hurting. That’s why we wrote this post: we are here for you. We want to tell you that you are not alone.We know because we’ve been there. I think most of us had a traumatic birth experience—for a large variety of reasons. Olga, for example, felt...
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Struggling To Breastfeed in Bangkok: Why Expat Moms Need Support

Struggling To Breastfeed in Bangkok: Why Expat Moms Need Support

BY LAURA KENT-DAVIDSON I can still remember the feeling I had walking off the plane in Bangkok with my eight-month-old in arms. Thailand was going to be our home for the next two years, and I was both terrified and overwhelmed with excitement. While I was eager to connect with locals and absorb Thai culture, I knew that reaching out to the English-speaking community was going to be important in my adjustment to help prevent the feelings of isolation I was afraid of developing. I wasn’t sure what to expect walking into the unknown, and as a breastfeeding mother, I was curious about what the breastfeeding culture in Bangkok. Would there be other breastfeeding moms in my community for support? I hoped that I would be able to find a few. Within days of arriving, I became aware of a group called the Bangkok Breastfeeding Cafe. From what I could tell online, it was a casual meet-up at a local coffee shop for...
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