I Can Admit It—My Husband Has More Fun With Our Kids

I Can Admit It—My Husband Has More Fun With Our Kids

  "Let's go down there and play," my husband grabs our daughter's hand and leads her down the bleachers of the gymnasium. Our son is playing on the other side of the gym with his classmates. I watch them as he leads her gently down the steep stairs and he instructs her to run back and forth on a painted line in her socked feet. She loves it and instantly transforms from an I'm-patiently-waiting-for-this-practice-to-end sibling into an I'm-having-so-much-fun-and-I-want-to-stay little kid. I mentally kick myself. Why didn't I think of that? It's not that I'm a wet blanket type of a mother, but I'm a rule follower, and that means that I don't always think about bending the rules. Couple my rule-following personality (which is a great cultural fit for Sweden) with a language barrier and the end result is a slightly hesitant parent. In a lot of ways, my husband reminds me of my own dad (insert your own psychological studies and "daddy complex"...
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An Open Letter to the Dads of Netflix: You Must Take Parental Leave

An Open Letter to the Dads of Netflix: You Must Take Parental Leave

Dear Dads of Netflix, When news broke of Netflix’s paid parental leave policy, you instantly became the envy of every parent who suffered through those sleepless nights during the first 12 months of his or her child’s life. You have been spared the stressful dance of early morning commutes and meetings that drag past 6pm only to rush home to start bath time before your little one falls asleep for the day. What most fathers wouldn’t give to be in your shoes right now. But now we are seeing articles stating that fathers at Netflix are unlikely to take advantage of this very rare opportunity.  Dads of Netflix – listen closely – you must take this leave. If you don’t take this leave, then nobody can. Let me back up a bit. My husband stayed at home for six months when our daughter was a baby. He was a professional dad with 80% salary—paid for by our taxes and his employer. How is this...
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